Expectation and Resentment

In a recent Science of Mind issue, Michael Gott wrote that an old timer in Alcoholics Anonymous once said that “expectations are resentments in training.” When I think about what …

The Child in Every Grownup

As I walked the other morning listening to Krista Tippet’s interview with Alain de Botton, I was struck with how I had been raised by two children. Not literally, of …

Sculpting the Real Self

Sculpting the Real Self   I once read that Michaelangelo was asked how he managed to create the magnificent statue of David, and he replied that he carved away all …

Eclipse of the Heart

Eclipse of the Heart Rev. Michael Gott used the metaphor of an eclipse in the Science of Mind magazine–a metaphor that I also used in describing my experience in Riptide. …

Self-Trust and Leaving Home

Self-Trust and Leaving Home Self-Trust and Leaving Home Sometimes we don’t start leaving home until well into middle age or beyond. Some folks never do. (This may be apparent if …

Connection v. Protection

When I see a couple in which fight or flight (attacking or shutting down as typical relational conflict strategies) is happening, I know that the only way to begin healing the dispute is to follow Einstein’s advice to transcend the level at which the problem was created.

Accusation or Concern?

“So how have things gone for the two of you since our last session?” I asked. Two weeks ago Shelly had complained about how much her husband Tom gets quiet, …

Anger – friend or foe?

“I don’t want to stop being angry!”   Elaine says, looking at me as if expecting a challenge. “What would it mean if you weren’t so angry?” I asked. “ …

Of Snakes and Stars

We drove up the winding blacktop road, headed for a private supper club owned by old friends. A spring snow had blanketed the mountains and frosted the trees, and we …